While attending Pastor’s School at First Baptist Church, Hammond, Indiana, a few years ago I was amazed at the concern some of the speakers had with my bedroom.
The primary speaker on this subject was Evangelist Tom Williams. One morning Mr. Williams gave what could be best described as controversial if not “X rated” message. During this message he talked about the bedroom being set up right for romance, how Song of Solomon was teaching oral sex, and how we needed to get over our embarrassment over such issues and that they needed to be taught. He went into great detail about how to please your wife and how she could please you. It was so bad at one point I saw a pastor cover the ears of his son. There were even jokes about what Mr. Williams instructed the ladies to do in the ladies session the day before; thankfully I did not have my wife attend. To finish off the message, Pastor Jack Schaap came out and joked about having cold showers for those that did not bring their wives. He also said that those who didn’t like what Williams had said should get out. He didn’t want any critics there.
I then heard about a book written by a pastor named Clint Caviness. It is entitled “When Risqué is Okay,” and it goes into explicit detail about the bedroom, what to wear, where to buy sex toys and the kind to get, how a young lady can prepare herself for the honeymoon, and even describes in intimate detail things the pastor and his wife do in bed.
The final example is of a ladies conference my wife attended where during a session for pastors wives, Mrs. Loretta Walker went into how to please your husband and described what can be done for him when the female body is unable to do so during her time of the month. My precious wife who is pure and chaste had to ask me what she meant and I was shocked by this teaching.
The even bigger surprise is when I found that this has been the big rage of the emergent church in recent years and I began to wonder where did our “IFB” preachers come up with this?
The Bible is very general on the subject and even warns about mentioning the things done in secret. How can a man not be embarrassed to address a public crowd on such matters?
This has even crept into the teaching on the Lord’s Supper. Jack Schaap’s book Marriage: The Divine Intimacy likens the Lord’s Supper and salvation itself to the sexual relationship between man and woman. Consider the following excerpt, for example (some statements i the book are too graphic and vile to quote):
“When a person takes the bread during the Lord’s Supper he is not actually eating Christ’s body. That person is saying, This element represents something. The person who deeply loves Christ understands that when he receives Christ as Saviour it is a spiritual intercourse. A person receives the body of Christ. A Christian is the female gender in this spiritual realm and God is the male gender of the spiritual realm. When a person receives Christ as Saviour he is receiving Christ as as lover” (page 51).
We have allowed grievous wolves to enter in amongst us. There seems to be this obsession of preachers to get into the bedroom and make sure we are adopting the world’s smutty way of “loving” each other.
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